It’s been quite a while since I’ve posted a blog entry of any substance. A lot has been going on, some of it stuff I simply didn’t want to discuss just because… well, I didn’t want to have the follow on conversation. Anyhow, here goes.
The biggest news is that I’m getting divorced. Those of you that know me and Rachel know we’ve danced around this once or twice before. I was the primary instigator, but we both agree it’s the right thing now. We decided about 5 months ago. We’re getting a no fault divorce. Ohio law stipulates that we divide everything evenly: debt, stuff, money. The first and third will be easy. The second will be a big pain, mostly because we have a lot of stuff – the dangers of having a house too big for two people I suppose. I’m sure some of the dividing of stuff will be a bit contentious at times, but I think we both want to get it done far more than we want to argue about it, certainly I do. We’re still living together, though sleeping in separate rooms. The divorce should be final early next year. I guess that’s about it as far as the mechanical details go.
Emotionally I’ve been up and down. We were married for ten years, so it’s not an easy thing to let go of. Certain people, and you know who you are I think, have been amazingly supportive even if you didn’t know it at specific times.
We’re both seeing someone now too. Interestingly, this happened for Rachel before me – counter to what most people would have predicted I suspect.
My girlfriend (and how odd it is to say I have a girlfriend again!) is named Leanne. She’s lovely, smart, has a great sense of humor, cooks, and build power plants. I won’t embarrass her anymore here: she can leave a comment and divulge any other facets of her wonderful self if she wants.
Other, less exciting news…
I’ve been role-playing a ridiculous amount – to the neglect of some other things. The RP has all been online, mainly on MUSHes, but I also play in an IRC-based game on Saturday afternoons. If you go poke around my wiki you’ll find character bios and so on. Definitely need to find some balance here. 
I shouldn’t complain /too/ much about my RP addiction though, I’ve met some really wonderful people there (and you know you are too).
Work’s been mildly hellish the last couple months, I have 3 or 4 jobs, depending on how you slice them. Really looking forward to paring that down.
Despite being a bit of a slug I’ve lost some weight. If I manage to start getting back to Aikido with any regularity I might actually be in pretty decent shape some day soon.
I’m currently reading, and loving,
That’s probably enough news, but even if it’s not I’m still ending this entry.
oh man im so sorry to hear all of that… but things will get better…if u need anything let me kno send me a message on yahoo or whatnot if u just need to talk ill listen ….
Here’s a comment about no comment. And it’s good to see an update here.
-Yours.
Hey, I know what you’re going through. Was there a year ago, and we’d been together for 10 years as well. Takes time to get over it, but get the debt, stuff, money out of the way and it’ll be easier. Remember: Stuff is just stuff… We all have too much already.
As time passes you might find it’s all for the better. I look back, and can’t see why I stuck with the marriage for so long. Way too long, in fact. But it’s hard to get out of something which is such a large part of your life. And we have kids as well. I guess that kept me longer than I should have.
Take care, and I hope you get back into Aikido – it’ll be good for you in many ways!
Sad to hear about the divorce, hope you both end up feeling better afterwards. Hope you find time to get back to Aikido!