Talked to a friend I haven’t talked to in quite a while, a few months I guess.

He and his wife are getting divorced. I’m not terribly surprised, he’s never been the most stable guy I know (which sounds mean, but I think he’d be the first to admit this). Some good is coming of it all though, he’s getting help for his bipolar disorder – back to which he says he can trace the roots of the dysfunction(s) which led to the divorce.

Apparently his wife says they’re different people. Part of me is like, well, duh. I wonder if she means they’re too different, trying to politely say something else, or just wants to avoid the whole thing and get out as quickly as she can.

I never really knew her, she lived in Texas (and the prejudicial part of me says ‘damn straight you are different, you are willingly living in Texas!’) and he moved down there to be with her. I chatted a few times with her online and never really got a good feeling from her, though it wasn’t like I had any sort of real dislike beyond that stemming from her taking him into what seemed to me to be a doomed relationship.

Maybe I’m blessed with great insight or maybe it was just coincedence. Either way, no ‘I told you so’s, as I told him, not what he needs to hear right now, and saying so is rarely a constructive thing.

Anyhow, the whole thing is mildly depressing: I found out another couple we know is getting divorced as well. He was/is clinically depressed (though not bipolar), and, in a strange coincedence, from Texas as well.

It makes me wonder how Rachel and I made it past her depression. Certainly things were pretty bad between us, as bad as they were for these other couples I suppose. Are we just that much stronger? Or was neither of us strong enough to break it off entirely? Some transcendental connection? Blind luck?